I get it, more and more women are focusing on their careers, so naturally, they are having children a little later in life. I am all for that, go 'head with your boss lady self. However, I did things a bit backwards. My " family " started when most of my friends were still in college. Since my " plan " didn't match up with the norm, I got lots of stares, confused faces, and even more invasive questions.
If you have a young mom friend, or see one out trying to catch her breath in the throws of life, here are a few things you should probably avoid saying:
1. I thought most women were having babies later?
2. Is your life over? No, like you know what I mean, did it just stop?
3. Well your hands are sure full!
4. Are these all yours?
Oh shoot, did my daughter grab a random child's hand again, and put them on our shopping cart? Now I need to find their parents and convince them not to press charges. Slightly kidding. Yes, these are all mine. I will never forget the day they were each born. In more ways than one.
5. Was it planned?
Unless you are my best friend, these words should never come out of your mouth. Hello intrusive.
6. You do know how this happens right?
I get that people are joking when they ask this, but please. Just. Don't.
7. Oh your body, do you worry you'll never get it back?
Now this is a question I'm sure most moms think about at some point, but we don't need others to bring it to the forefront. Yes, of course I think about it from time to time, but I have bigger things to focus on. I'm more worried about if my baby will stay happy and healthy.
8. You're young, so you're a cool mom.
9. Well at least you got it out of the way early.
Out of the way? You do know how kids work right? They are not like birds, they don't sprout wings and leave the nest. They are yours. For life. Now with this one, I kind of get it. We will probably be the youngest parents when our older ones are graduating, but I would never think of them as in the way. Unless they're blocking the bathroom. After three kids
10. Your life must be so hard. How do you do it?
It really is. We only have one car, and my husband doesn't understand that when Target switches seasons, I need the car on that day so I can see the new decor. Oh, you were talking about the kids?
What did Thumper say? " If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all ". I do think, most people say these things out of innocence. They do not mean any malicious intent behind their comments. They probably are just trying to figure out how you navigate through your life. If the question you're about to ask would offend you, then it may be best you save that one. Young moms get a different rep than others, but at the end of the day, we're all moms. We all change diapers the same way, we all love our