Stop Wanting More - A Guide To Being Happy Right Now
It is so like us as humans to keep looking ahead to the next thing. We wake up with a perfectly great day, and by noon we have wasted the better part of our morning thinking about tomorrow's problems. I get it. As the woman of the house, you feel the need to keep everyone organized. If you don't, you see the walls literally crumbling around you.
Okay, now I see why my husband says I don't use that word in the right context. However, when you're clutching your sheets to your chest at night realizing you're already behind for tomorrow, the walls feel as if they are (literally) fall down.
It was especially easy to feel out of whack around the holidays. Even with the magic and dreamy lights, sometimes all the pressure we placed on ourselves left us feeling less than. We looked at our neighbors making homemade gluten free gingerbread houses, and felt their eyes on us as they watched us bring our clearance, sugar-loaded, store-bought, gingerbread house inside.
Next year, we
We saw people spending money to buy gifts we couldn't afford to give. We saw people and their perfectly wrapped presents. Meanwhile, our presents looked like we made our kids wrap their own. Next year I will buy all locally made paper from small shops, and hand stamp each package with gold foil reindeer!
We just keep longing for " when ", though we should be focused on " now ".
Since we are human, these thoughts are natural, but don't let control you. Here are a few ways to keep your mind focused on being truly happy this year.
1. Figure out what being happy means to you
For me, happiness is when my kids are bathed and in footed
When you look at your reasons, it helps you put life into perspective. Of course it would be
2. Be aware of the present
As women and
Look for those beautiful little moments throughout your day. They are there. Maybe someone held the door open for you, or paid for your coffee. Maybe your kids let you sleep in an extra 15 minutes, or got an A on that test you helped them study for. The moments are there. When you start looking, you will see them so much easier.
3. Be grateful, and give thanks.
Happy people constantly give thanks. They give thanks for what they have, and where they are, instead of focusing on what they do not have. You could do this in your daily prayers, or in a journal. Even starting off going through the motions of a grateful person will help you get there.
Say thank you, and mean it - be sincere, and remember the bad. That last one seems like a real drain, but I promise if you reflect on hard times in your
4. Make attainable daily lists
Checking off things on my list, gives me a little high. It's wonderful to feel accomplished, especially when some days it's as if you're just spinning your wheels. Make a list of 5-10 things you know you can get done. Example: vacuum, wipe down
That is not feasible. If you have a light day with nowhere else to be, you might make your list a bit more of a challenge. But,
5. Take control of your thoughts, before they take control of you.
If you think negative, you will become negative.
If all you're doing is wishing for things you don't have, or looking forward to the next season of your life to begin, you will waste your beautiful life away. Some days I daydream
I quickly shake those thoughts away, because they are almost to the age where I can't pick them up anymore. They are at the age where they get embarrassed when I watch them play. They already are in a new season.
We all do it. We put too much on our plates, and fill our heads with seemingly impossible visions. It leaves us not fully enjoying the life we already have. We may not have all the money in the world, or perfectly packaged gifts, but you don't need those things to be happy.
I think we could all benefit from Mr. Abraham Lincoln - " Most folks are as happy as they make up their mind to be ".
I happen to agree Mr. Lincoln.
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