A Letter to My Future Self

We all have visions of what our future will look like.  Where we’ll be living, what our financial situation will be, what kind of person we’ll become... and life can get frustrating because ultimately we can’t predict what will happen – we can only react to events that happen along the way, and as a result our lives are sculpted from circumstance. Yet with all that in mind, I decided to write a letter to my future self explaining who I hope to become and what I hope to accomplish, and hopefully in the process I’ll find peace with these lingering worries that sit at the back of my mind.

Dear Christine,

I am writing this letter in hopes that when you look back and remember the person you were, you will smile.  You will smile because everything leading up to where you are now, and every decision you have made along the way, resulted in a person you’re proud of...

Matt and I recently bought our first house, and as you may remember, we’ve quickly learned what it’s like to be new homeowners and the struggles of staying financially afloat.  Things aren’t easy -- our country is on the verge of a recession, and the term “house poor” has become a bold reality.  But aside from all of that, we’re comfortable.  And that’s really what matters, right?

I hope you keep your promise to travel to all of the places on the top of our list. I hope while you are reading this, you will have fond memories of Thailand, Greece, Ireland, Scotland, the list goes on. Because right now, this is really important to me.  As much as I am ready to start a family and become a mother, I don’t want to lose sight of my travel goals. So let’s make sure this happens!

I hope that you are the best mother you hoped you would be ( and I hope I will be).  I hope you are patient, kind, and understanding.  I hope you let your children fall, let them make mistakes, but ultimately guide them towards becoming the best version of themselves.   Just like Mom and Dad did for us.

 I hope that you continue to take risks and never settle for anything less than the best for yourself and your family. I hope you continue to chase your dreams, because it’s never too late to start over. We embrace change and adapt quickly. Keep doing what you love. 

I hope you continue to put yourself out there to meet new people, explore new places, and find inspiration in everything you do. You are a people person -- you are curious, and you always want to learn something new. Don’t ever stop. 

I hope you have the perfect garden, because you have found a great passion for it. Seriously, I am working so hard at this but I just can’t seem to get it right! So please make sure you become a master gardener and all my hard work doesn’t go to waste.  But on a serious note, gardening has taught us a lot about patience, natural beauty and how to just tune the rest of the world out. There’s something totally zen about playing in the dirt.

I hope that you still have a great relationship with your best friends. They have always been there for you, even from a distance, so never lose touch.

I hope you travel home to Cape Breton often -- more than I do now. Money and time should never be a factor. Make time. Hopefully we will have that cottage there by the time you’re reading this. I am comfortable saying my home is in Ontario now, but Cape Breton will always be in my heart.

I hope you continue to practice yoga because I really love it when I go. It’s good for the mind, body and the soul. Remember that! No excuses – do it. Take care of your body.

I hope you have stopped being your worst critic. I have been tough on myself a lot over the years but as I approached my ‘30s, I care less and less about the small things and I am definitely more comfortable in my own skin.  Don’t feel bad saying no once in a while – do what makes you happy.  Put yourself first every so often and you will be happier for it.

I hope you continue to work hard at your relationship, and I sure hope it’s a marriage for you by now. Always remember to put him first, as he was there first. Remember to go on dates, communicate, and never fall out of love. I hear how easy it is to lose this once kids come into the picture.

I hope you are happy and I hope you are proud of me and how I got us here today -  I am still learning everyday how to be a better version of myself and to make sure our future is everything we dreamed of.

Most importantly, I hope all of our dreams come true!

Yours forever,

Christine.