How You Know You've Found a Friend for the Ages

Friendship is a tricky little thing, isn’t it? There are some friendships that only last a little while, and there are some that last a lifetime. That’s okay and natural, but the friendships you remember are the ones that endure the seasons of life. There are a few things that make some friendships special.

You can be in different stages of life, but your bond stays the same

There are friends I talk to on a daily basis, and there are others that aren’t as frequent. Sometimes it’s exciting to wait and tell someone everything all at once, while sometimes there is another person you want to tell everything the second it happens. The main keeping those friendships healthy and strong is the understanding that even if you’re in completely different stages of life, your connection doesn’t change. Regardless of communication frequency, you still are making that person know their importance in your life.

You can say “I’m Sorry”

The best part about those really, really great lifetime friends is knowing that you can admit when you screwed up. You can admit that you’ve been having a bad week or a bad month. You can admit that you snapped at them for reasons that had nothing to do with them. 

They are understanding

Those lifetime friendships, they are the most understanding friendships. I recently had to text a friend and tell her thank you, I realized I’d been neglecting our friendship while I was dealing with other things in my life. Regardless of the fact that it’s taken me three days to respond to texts, she still sends them. That right there means the world to me, when you have someone who cares enough to know that they may just need to pull a little extra weight for a while.

They accept that you are not always your best

I’ll be the first to admit, I haven’t been very lovable lately. I’ve been dealing with issues of my own, I’ve been stressing about things beyond my control, I haven’t been the best friend. But aren’t we all at some point bad friends? The good things is, your best friend get that.

This quote on friendship perfectly illustrates this.

“That’s when I realized what a true friend was. Someone who would always love you – the imperfect you, the confused you, the wrong you – because that is what people are supposed to do.” r.j.l.

We all get a little confused, life gets a little messy, we pull away, etc. Always just remember who sticks around during those darker times, that’s who you want in your corner during the brighter ones.

Take the time to say thank you, get your special friends a little gift, a card, or write them a note just to say “I appreciate you”. Such a small gesture can mean the world to them and make your bond even stronger.