So let’s get serious for a minute. Anytime someone asks you how you are, or how life is going, your response most of the time is, “it’s great, just so busy!” I know it is always my response. Everyday of my life I feel I can’t catch up. I have a major to do list and seem to only check one to two things off of it a day, sometimes even a week.
WHY am I so busy? Why is our world never shutting off? We feel we have to always do more that’s why. Or maybe it’s because what we are doing just isn’t good enough. We have to one-up everyone.
I currently have three jobs, one in which I travel for once a month. I do not have to have three jobs, I choose to. So you are probably thinking to yourself...then WHY do you do it? Why would one work when you do not have to? Well, I do not really have a good answer besides I like to stay busy.
Yep, there's that word again. UGH!
I do not do well sitting still and I never have. I have worked since I was 14 years old. I feel accomplished and that I have a purpose when I work. My husband wants me to stay at home once we start having children and I am not sure how that is going to go. I know I will love it, I know there will be good days and bad days, and I also know it will take some major adjustments.
So I am going to give myself some advice and also share with you in hopes it helps you too. Here are some lessons I feel can help with not becoming too busy.
1. Prioritize - I know when I have a to do list a mile long, and I have Target on that list, and refinancing my car, I usually choose Target! When I make decisions like that and put off all the important things, I start to feel so overwhelmed. Having a checklist can also really help. I am going to start listing things in order of priority. Always make time for the fun things, just make sure the crucial things are handled first.
2. Learn that "No." is a complete sentence - I am so guilty of this. I hate telling people no. I always want to help and do more. I never want to disappoint those around me and I always want to feel I am giving my time and doing for others. However, there has to be a line drawn, and you have to remember that your life is important too. You have to not wear yourself out so much to the point where you don’t even have time for your spouse. Work smarter, not harder.
3. Do not procrastinate - I am reeeeeaaally good at this. What is funny is I am always on my husband about this, yet I win the prize! Ugh. Just like eating healthy and working out, sometimes we tell ourselves, I will start tomorrow. It is the same with a to do list. For example my cosmetology license renewal, they needed proof of my name change since marriage. A MONTH went by and I was like, ok it is time to go up to the UPS store, make a copy and fax the dang thang over! You bet during that month though I was making trips to Target, TJ Maxx and Home Goods because that was way more important right?!
4. Do not over commit and under deliver - This past year of my life, this has been me sadly enough. I once again do not like to tell people "no". I always love a new project, a new hobby, a new adventure, but at the same time I do NOT like giving 110%. I had a friend contact me from high school about decorating her house. I thought, oh how fun, I would love to! I live in Georgia and she is in Alabama. Although I travel to Alabama once a month, I am busting it nonstop while there doing work. It was hard to find time and I found myself repeatedly apologizing and saying I am so sorry, I am just so busy! So I felt I overcommitted, and under delivered and I hated that.
I have so many “wasted” days it seems where I look at the clock and it is 6pm and I am thinking, what in the world have I done today?! I have ran a million errands and sat at my desk for hours, but I do not feel the least bit accomplished.
All of these things go hand in hand. If you think about it, you can’t just say I will do one of these things and it will solve my busy life. You have to really apply ALL of them daily and decide how you are going to approach and tackle your life.
Here is to a less busy, and more productive life friends!