How To Keep Stress From Ruining Your Life
Death, taxes AND stress. The truth is, stress isn't going away any time soon. In fact, it appears the
1. Breathe, breathe, breathe: This is not referring to hyperventilation, feeling numb and fainting shortly after. We're
2. Disconnect from the situation: Gathering your thoughts can change the perspective of a seemingly stressful event. Sometimes, stepping away resets your thought process and will enable you to take judicious action. It could even enlighten you as to an obvious solution you may have overlooked or prevent making an insensible one due to the pressure of the moment. Taking time to regroup isn’t a sign of cowardice. It's a sensible tool during difficult times.
3. Place the gravity of the situation on a realistic scale: Let's face it, we tend to over-dramatize everything moving from 0-100 real quick, right? The use of a scale isn't necessarily a bad thing. I measure the severity of the things being thrown at me on a daily basis. Being honest with myself and true to the scale has kept me pretty well adjusted thus far. 0-10, 1 being nothing and 10 being an absolute catastrophe. Now, if breaking a gel nail or spilling coffee on your new Anthropologie dress is anything above 2, then we have a serious problem and it may be time for re-evaluation of priorities. Part of the issue is viewing obstacles with an overly negative slant. Additionally, because we’ve made situations out to be preposterous, the solutions appear equally impalpable. They wouldn’t feel that far fetched if you hadn’t taken things way out of proportion.
4. Talk it out with someone close to you. Your emotions directly impact the way you function as a whole. Suppressing stress will only add to the pressure you feel and will ultimately impact your physical state. Chest tightness, abdominal discomfort and even some skin conditions have been directly linked to stress and how we cope with it. Expressing your fear and/or worries can be extremely therapeutic. It’s not even about the quick fix (aka Band Aid) a friend could potentially bring to the table, but rather about healing and reorganizing of ideas and actions. Having a support system and saying things out loud can alleviate some of the emotional changes that come with stress.
5. Identify the avoidable
We don’t have the capabilities to change everything and everyone around us, but we do have the ability to control how we handle ourselves in the face of stress. Acceptance leads to inner peace and gratitude. Limit the time spent aggravating yourself over the things you can't control and focus on all the blessings surrounding you. Revolutionize the way you see the bigger picture and ask yourself- “does this really matter in the long run?”At times it will, but for the most part, it doesn't. Get over it, drama llama, there's bigger fish to fry.