Life is hard. Adulting is hard. So, by keeping the people and relationships in your life feeling important and cared for, the rest of what life throws you seems a little more bearable. I mean, why do you think T-Swift's squad is so big? Have you seen the things she does for her family, friends, and even fans? She definitely makes sure everyone knows how much she appreciates them all.
We just celebrated Valentine's Day not too long ago, and I am such a hardcore romantic that my poor husband will probably never be able to reach my standards of what the perfect holiday would look like to me. I'm talking, build me a house like Noah from the notebook. I know, I cringe thinking about how impossible I am. I obviously know that that was only a movie. (Maybe if I repeat this to myself 1,000 times I'll believe it). We have been together for 8 years now, and while I'm not a veteran, I think I know a few things. Maybe. It has humbled me and helped me become a little more practical.
It is super important to make your partner feel loved every single day. Here are a few ways to become #couplegoals, no matter how long you've been together.
1. Leave each other little notes.
Hide them in their lunches if you pack them for him, leave a sweet note on the steamed up mirror in the bathroom, tuck it in his work bag. It doesn't have to be a novel, just a few words to let him know you're thinking of him. I mean, is it ever a bad thing to know you're the reason someone smiles?
2. Do the things you used to when you first started dating.
Now, when I met my husband, I had just turned 20 and he was living in a house full of guys, and well, let's just say we were college poor. I would bring him gas station cappuccinos, and he would send me a message every single day before work just to tell me he was thinking of me. Whenever I think back to those days, I just can't stop smiling. We're a little older now and our tastes are a little more refined when it comes to coffee, but whenever I bring him a coffee home I still think of that 20 year old boy.
3. Pick one new thing a week to do with your other half.
While it's important to keep true to who you were when you met, it is also important to know that once you have been together for a while, it's okay to STILL have fun. Take a cooking class, go for a hike, try a new hobby out together. It doesn't have to be fancy, or cost a lot of money, just doing something a little out of the normal routine of your daily life will keep that spark alive. And who doesn't want a spark? If we're being honest, I want a whole box of sparklers.
4. Give them 3 nice compliments a day. And mean it!
Is their hard work paying off at the gym? Did they come home a little early from work? Let your loved one know you still find them attractive, and you appreciate them. A few nice words go a long way.
5. Do something unexpected.
Do you always yell at them for leaving the seat up? Next time you're in the loo - raise it for them. Sounds silly and a little dirty, I know. Is there something your partner asks you to do that sometimes falls through the cracks? Pick up their favorite food, candy, hair product, etc. It may not seem like much to you, but to them, it will show them one more reason that you care about their needs and wants. And if you do try to tackle the toilet seat, it will make them laugh too.
Everyone seems to say it, but it really is the little things that matter. Doing little things here and there will ensure that your relationship stays at the forefront of your mind. Think about how great it feels when your partner thinks of you for no reason, other than to simply say, I love you. Keeping Valentine's Day going all year is you choosing them day after day. Butterflies aren't only for the beginning stages, I feel like we should make them last til we're old and gray. And then even after.
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