A Letter to My Sister, as She Becomes a New Mom

Ever since I can remember, you have been by my side. My earliest memories are of you feeding me, helping me pick out the most stylish outfits, showing me how to contain our crazy curly hair and starting my interest and love of makeup. Most 10 year old girls think a newborn sister will cramp their style, but you always managed to make me feel wanted and loved.

I am definitely not an expert on being a mom and I am nowhere near becoming one. Everyday is new and uncharted territory when you're a mom which is beautiful but can also be quite terrifying. Having three kids of my own, I have learned a thing or two about being a mother. When you're expecting your first child everyone will want to give their two cents on the best way to parent, I know. While I normally try and keep my advice to myself unless asked for, there are a few things I want you to know.

1. Babies don't need much. They don't need five different swings and bouncy seats. One will suffice if only so you can have a few moments alone to yourself. They don't need a wipe warmer — their cute little bums will be just fine with room temperature tissues. Above all else, your baby needs you. Other than the essentials, that's about it. Your baby will not know or care if they are in trendy outfits or expensive strollers. The most important thing you can give them from day one is an unparalleled love. Once you set eyes on your newborn baby, that will be the easiest thing to provide.

2. It's O.K. to feel every emotion under the sun. Oh, the fabulous world that is hormones. They come crashing down in waves, each just as unexpected as the one preceding it. When you need a breather just remember you can reach out to me and I will re-load your Starbucks card so you can get some " me time ". It only takes a moment to gather yourself and refresh, so why not have a coffee in hand? But seriously. The emotions you experience after pregnancy can make you feel like you are losing your mind but they don't last forever. Every mom before you has been there whether they admit it or not and every mom after you will experience the same thing.

3. It's okay to not enjoy every moment. Everyone seems to only broadcast the joys and beautiful moments that come along with their newborns, but it's not all sunshine and rainbows. There will be nights when you don't want to change diapers and mornings when you would do anything to feel well rested. Don't be alarmed by the moments you aren't joyful about your new motherhood and when those moments come, understand there is nothing wrong with you. When it comes to motherhood, you will find nothing is normal and the sooner you realize that the sooner you will feel peace.

4. You are enough. You have been a part of my story for a long time and with that comes the privilege of being your best friend. I have seen first hand how fantastic of a mother you will be because you've always cared for me in just that way. Just because this is your first child, it doesn't mean you haven't been a role model to me. You go above and beyond for the people in your life. You are constantly thinking of others and ways to make their lives better. You already have everything you need to be a wonderful mother.

We have cried together, laughed together and I am so thankful to be in this season of your life with you. Know that if you ever need anything, even if it's in the middle of the night, you can call me and I will be there. I will drive to wherever you are, I will listen whenever you need someone to talk to, and I will be in your corner cheering you on, and praying for you every step of the way.

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