Choices

Society Letters started through some good ol’ fashion girl power, with one lady in particular - Mrs. Deborah Stachelski.  Here on Society Letters we are ALL about supporting and learning from each other.  As we begin posting, you’ll see that each of us come from different parts of the world.  We all have different writing styles, hobbies, and talents, but there’s one thing that unites us: we’re all ladies who are passionate about women being awesome.  

My little corner of Society Letters is dedicated to DIY, rural living (or in Deb’s terms, “being fabulous on a farm”), wedding planning, and the ‘life of a blogger’.  The whole ‘life of a blogger’ is a funny topic to me because it implies that I am a real blogger, when in reality, I just feel like someone who likes to create things and post photos of them, but I guess that’s the definition of a blogger, so I will share what I have learned along the way - even though, I am definitely still learning.  If you’d like to check out my personal blog you can visit me here!

But a little more about my story... By the time I was in first grade, I had my whole life planned out, ya know: graduate elementary school, go to Harvard, become president, rule the world (not necessarily in that order); however, life didn't play out exactly the way I had it down in my hot pink, glitter penned planner.

The story begins with, "I met a boy..."

At 17 I was planning on attending the University of Alabama where I wanted to join a sorority, try out for cheerleading, and meet Mr. Right, but during the last months of my senior year, I had met a boy, in my hometown, and fallen in love. Instead of packing my bags and heading south, I found myself facing a major choice that would affect the rest of my life.

I made the choice to stay.

We spent the next four years of our lives growing up, making mistakes, and finding out who we were and who we wanted to be. I faced a lot of judgement from my friends for not spending my college days exploring who I was as a single gal, but it never stopped me from loving him.

Eventually, he made the decision that school wasn't for him, and decided he wanted to move to his family's cattle ranch. Now, I may have chosen the boy, but that wasn't going to stop me from finishing college. After all, I wasn’t a quitter (and taking over the world requires a college degree right?). So while he spent the weekdays at the ranch, I finished my degree in Marketing. Looking back, I am very thankful for this time, because it gave me the freedom to explore who I was when he wasn't there. I was able to be okay with being alone, which gave me the confidence that I was making the right choice. Again, a choice that would affect the rest of my life.

This time, I made the choice to go.

When the time came for both of us to sit down and really decide where we wanted to start the next chapter of our lives, it was an easy conversation for us to have.  We both agreed that we felt our new home was at the ranch. So, right after I graduated, we packed up our little house and headed North on a new adventure. One that has brought on all sorts of ups and downs. Many of which I plan to share with you here on Society Letters!  

Writing for Society Letters is very different than writing for my personal blog, and even though this is my first post, it’s very challenging for me to write solely about myself and my new life. On Boxwood Avenue, I share recipes, DIY projects, and feature products I love; I rarely write a post that is just about my life.  I can’t wait to challenge myself to reflect and write about my experiences. I hope you’ll enjoy what I have to say, and that we can get to know each other, and learn from each other too, because afterall, that’s what Society Letters is all about.  

Stay tuned for more insights on the importance of having good girlfriends, learning to lean on each other for guidance, why everyone needs chickens (and goats), and all things blogging.